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Children's aggression. What to do? 02.10.2018 at 16:00

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Aggression is not an emotion — it's a well known fact. Aggression is a pattern of behavior. And it is formed in early childhood. From infancy that you can't even imagine.

Consider this example: a woman in her last month of pregnancy, which is feeling the aftershocks of her unborn child, angrily said: "well stop kicking me!". And the other expectant mother in response to it said, "Grow up, my baby! Play! But please, next time not so much." Feel the difference?

oddly enough, but the child hears and feels our words and understand. Therefore, in the first case, the child likely to be born more aggressive than in the second case. If your child suddenly became combative and rude, hurting other children or adults, do not rush to "take action". First, follow the child and try to understand what is behind his aggression.

the Causes of Aggression

Parents should not be unduly concerned about the aggression of the child. There is nothing wrong, when a child angrily reacts to an event.

Any of us in case of conflict, danger, resentment or anger may become aggressive. After all, only adults can control their own emotions. The child, in turn, can not regulate their behavior as an adult. The child, in which case, starts violently expressing their dissatisfaction, not thinking about what he's going to impress adults. He screams, yells, throws on the floor items, etc. Parents are sometimes ashamed of this behavior of your baby. They take measures to get some results. But from what parents scold, yell and hit your child, child's aggression does not take place, and can only increase.

Children's aggression. Parents fight with children

If the child is under the age of 3 years is aggressive, it most likely means his protest against the authority of adults. Please note that if you punish the child, children's aggression only increased. Even worse, if you show the softness of nature and surrender. Your child will quickly notice it and understand how it can achieve the desired result. The style of this behaviour will be fixed for years to come. Think about it.

At the age of 4-5 years under the influence of social norms, the child is able to keep his emotions under control. He already understands how he should behave and what he should not do.

Before school or in elementary school, children behave aggressively because it is a concrete form of their relationships with other children and adults.

the Main causes of aggression

to pay attention — all good

If the child does not have tender feelings, love, care, affection he will do anything to attract any attention. If this happens to you and your child, please be careful and try to understand your baby. Respond to aggression with aggression is certainly not necessary.

Change and injustice

because of the inability to Express their pain or dissatisfaction of parents in children sometimes aggression. The child may begin to show jealousy due to the emergence of the youngest child in the family. Aggression can provoke parents ' divorce, the appearance of a stepfather in the house. But most of all, the feelings of the children hurt broken promises and unjust punishment.


it Often happens that the child, the feeling of uselessness, futility, or it feels worse than others. And from that comes the manifestation of aggression, but only as a protective reaction.

the Chances of aggressive behavior can manifest itself in each child. It depends only on parents, turn these moments into a natural behavior or will disappear forever.

Other reasons

In early childhood, one of the main ways of understanding the world is imitation . The child tries to be like their parents. If you regularly yell at their child, and sometimes even beat him, he will tell you the same, believing that to behave is the norm. Don't be surprised.

Excessive punishment also no good will not. The child will begin to hide their negative emotions in your presence, and all the anger will spill on the people around him when you are not around. For example, on the Playground in the yard your child will infringe on younger children and often fight with their peers.

the Helplessness of the parents , softness in the education, lack of interest in the child also contribute to uncontrolled aggression in children. Parents need to be persistent and resolute in your child's upbringing. Otherwise, your "little miracle" will be easy to manipulate you.

Tips for Parents

First of all, try to figure out what the true cause of aggressiveness in your child.

Take your child as he is, with all faults. Say that you love him as often as possible.

will Discuss with the child his emotions. Explain to him that all people get angry sometimes. This is normal. Teach him how to Express his negative emotions without causing harm to friends and associates.